I hated the way I looked for as long as I could remember. I was teased in high school for having a big nose and being too thin.
When school ended, I started eating unhealthy in a bid to get ‘fat’. I did not mind stuffing my face with those greasy cheeseburgers and double thick milkshakes if it meant that I would get a bit plumped up.
I gained almost 20 kilograms through comfort eating. But, instead of feeling better, it made me feel more insecure. People made sarcastic comments about my weight gain.
It got to a point that I tucked my stomach in wherever I went and was too embarrassed to take any photographs.
I was then on a mission to lose weight. It was not easy at first. I had to sacrifice all my favourite comfort foods and my afternoons were filled with rigorous gym sessions. Fortunately I lost almost 12 kilograms within three months.
Even then, there were those criticised me.
The point behind the story is that people will always try to make you feel like you less than or not perfect.
Self love is hard to find in a world with people who constantly criticise. You either too thin, too fat or there is some flaw with you.
But on whose criteria do we measure beauty anyway?
Everyone has their own definition of beauty, you just have to find yours.
Here are my tips to self love:
Tell yourself you are beautiful
How many of us actually tell ourselves that we are beautiful? Around 90 percent of people don’t appreciate their beauty and are constantly finding flaws with themselves. Take 5 minutes each day to tell yourself how beautiful you are. Try to compliment your features and the things that make you unique.
Accept your flaws
God created us in His image. Your favourite celebrities may fix their flaws with a nip and a tuck but that doesn’t mean you should too. Embrace your flaws. Accept that it makes you different, but also beautiful. I embraced my big nose, so why shouldn’t you?
Put your happiness first
If you are happy with the way you look, don’t change for anyone. At the end of the day, your happiness is important.
If someone says something that doesn’t make you feel good, you should tell them. Honesty in this day and age can be hard, especially when a person fears confrontation. However, often the people who criticise or judge you don’t actually feel like they are hurting you. Speaking to them will not only make you feel better, but also help them with their interactions with you and others in future.
Care not what others think
Not caring about what others think about you can give you the confidence to enjoy the person you are and attract many new friends.